Choosing a mediator can be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. There are many mediators out there, each with their own unique style, experience, and qualifications. Even within High Plains Mediation (HPM), we have varying career backgrounds and experiences. But fear not, dear reader, with the right approach, you can find the perfect mediator for your needs.

1. Consider the mediator's experience and qualifications. Like a good wine, a mediator gets better with age and experience. Look for a mediator who has experience in handling similar disputes and who has received proper training and education. A mediator with a background in law or psychology can be especially useful for certain types of disputes. It's like choosing a doctor, you want someone who is experienced and qualified to treat your specific issue.

2. Look for a mediator with a neutral approach. A mediator should be impartial and unbiased, like Switzerland in a world of warring nations. They should not take sides and should not have any interest in the outcome of the dispute. A neutral mediator will help create a level playing field for the parties to negotiate and reach a mutually acceptable agreement.

3. Consider the mediator's communication style. Communication is key in any negotiation and mediation is no exception. Look for a mediator with good listening skills, who can communicate effectively and who can create a comfortable and safe environment for the parties to express their views. A mediator with a good sense of humor can also help to lighten the mood and create a more relaxed atmosphere.

4. Look for a mediator with good organizational skills. Mediation can be a complex process and it's important to have a mediator who can keep track of the issues, the progress of the negotiation and can ensure that the process runs smoothly. It's like having a good event planner, everything runs smoothly and on schedule.

5. Check the mediator's availability. Mediation is a time-sensitive process and it's important to have a mediator who is available to schedule the sessions at a convenient time for all parties. It's like trying to schedule a meeting with a celebrity, you need to be flexible and available at their convenience.

6. Seek professional assistance. If you're not sure where to start or what to look for in a mediator, seek the advice of a qualified professional. A trained mediator can help you understand the process, the benefits and the potential cost savings of mediation. It's like having a personal shopper, they know what you need and where to find it.

In conclusion, HPM sgguests choosing a mediator is like finding the perfect pair of shoes. It takes time and patience, but with the right approach and a bit of humor, you can find a mediator that suits your needs. Consider the mediator's experience and qualifications, neutral approach, communication style, organizational skills, availability and seek professional assistance. And remember, a good sense of humor can go a long way in the mediation process.

Here are a couple sources to further your reading:

• American Bar Association - How Courts Work - "How Can I Choose a Mediator?"
• Mediate.com - Tom Sebok - "Preparing For Your Mediation"